The A’s & B’s of Great Sex

Posted by Ben Ezra at 5:56 am

Going for The Erotic “Home Run”

You built enough comfort and attraction and the woman is now in your bed… What now? Where do you begin? What should you do first?

I like to think of sex as a nice slow game of baseball. The good games usually consist of good timing, patience, and a good amount of skill. Long baseball games are only boring to those who don’t really know what’s going on.

I find that it’s the same with sex.

To be good at it, you need to understand timing, you need to be patient, and you should also have some pretty good skills!

The problem I find with most guys is that they simply move into everything WAY too fast, and before the woman even has a chance to moan, it’s all done. OR, they simply don’t know what the hell they are doing at all!

There is definitely a difference between just sex, good sex, and GREAT sex… And I will try to point out these differences as I go along…

For a guy, all sex is pretty much the same: we see, we conquer, and we cum… But for a woman, it’s much more complex than that…

I talk a lot about building comfort and attraction in my book Modern World Dating, and how important it is if you want to get to the “bed phase”, aka “phase 8″ of the MWD Model.

The thing is though, just because you made it to the bed, does not mean you have to stop building comfort and attraction. You must continue building the comfort and attraction even during the sex. And you do this in 2 ways:

1) By continuing to do different things that turn them on, &

2) By taking your time

By following those 2 guidelines you will convey to the woman that you are in no rush whatsoever (which will lower her guard and make her feel more comfortable with you) and that you know how to turn a woman on (which will excite her and make her go into a state of sexual ecstasy).

Most women almost never reach an orgasm during sex because most guys don’t follow those 2 simple guidelines! Think about it…

For a woman to be able to reach an orgasm, her comfort level has to be VERY high. And she has to be continuously stimulated in the right places, in the right ways, for a certain amount of time.

It could take 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, 45 minutes, etc… Depending on the woman, and depending on how comfortable and turned on she is.

Some of you guys might be thinking, “Well, I can only last for 5-10 minutes IF IM LUCKY so is there any hope for me?”

Luckily, you don’t actually need to be having continuous sex for a woman to reach an orgasm. If you feel like you are about to reach your limit, stop, take it out, and retreat back to foreplay. Give her oral sex, stimulate her erogenous zones, use those piano fingers (make sure nails are trimmed first)… Or a combination of all three.

After you’ve done that for a bit, and you took back some control over captain willy, get back to the sensually erotic sex… And so on… Repeat that as many times as you need to, so you can make sex a sensual, pleasurable, and memorable experience for your partner.

To make sex long, great, and memorable, try to incorporate all these things:

• Constantly change positions (doggy, on a chair, on a table, standing, against a wall, etc…)
• Change locations (change rooms, change scenery, outside, etc…)
• Stimulate her clit – Use your tongue (oral sex) or finger
• Stimulate her nipples and the area around them (areola)
• Lick her lightly around areas such as the neck, breasts, thighs, & ears
• Use your warm breath by breathing in and out extremely close to her neck and ear area during any of the above (will give her goose bumps)
• Use scented candles in background
• Play sensual music, trance, or something with a nice beat in background (depending on your taste)
• Use massaging techniques with warm and scented massage oils
• Strawberries and chocolate (use sex food)
• Use sex toys

AND SO ON!

If you follow these guidelines, the women you sleep with will not know what just hit them… Except in the literal sense, obviously. And they will definitely remember it and want it again!

That’s the whole point isn’t it? To make her want it again, and again, and again… Something she can look forward to, and perhaps even talk about to her friends (according to statistics, to the majority of women in sexual relationships, sex eventually becomes routine, and boring).

All in all, make sure you excite her enough before you start giving her what she wants… And even then, make sure you don’t stop giving her what she wants until she becomes addicted!

Make sure ALL the bases are loaded before you go in for the home run…

Enjoy!

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To discover “The Bed” phase in more detail, make sure to check out my book, Modern World Dating by clicking on Dating Tips For Men

“A Life Worth Living, Is A Life Worth Improving.”

Why Most Men Will Never Be Successful With Women

Posted by Ben Ezra at 8:26 pm

Your probably thinking to yourself, what a darn negative way to start an article… Assuming that most men will never be successful with women!? How dare I say such a thing..?

Well, let me explain…

In this day & age, at least %80 (keeping things conservative) of men that I personally know and meet have some kind of trouble when it comes to meeting, dating, and attracting great women… They simply don’t get it!

But, that is obviously not the main reason why they will probably never be truly successful when it comes to meeting and dating women, because everyone can improve if they really wanted to, right?

Here’s the thing though… Even though most men KNOW they could use some help, they still choose to refuse it, even when it is offered to them…

Funny, isn’t it? Perhaps men have this innate stubbornness about them, and their ego’s can’t admit that they could use some help, even when it is obvious that they could… Just like the man who would rather end up lost, than use a map.

I could relate to this, because I used to be that guy! The guy who pretended he had everything under control, when in reality I didn’t… And the worst part was, I was not only lying to the people around me, but more importantly, I was lying to myself!

This kind of thinking is dangerous, and is what sabotages most peoples chances of any success, in dating and in any other area of their lives…

The truth is, YOU DON’T LIKE CHANGE.

Most people don’t… It is easier to stay the same, than to change. It is easier to live in your “comfort zone” than it is to purposely get yourself out of it and grow – to improve.

This is probably the biggest frustration I have when it comes to wanting to help a man who doesn’t really want the help, even though he NEEDS it!

You can’t force change upon someone, but you CAN inspire change upon them. To inspire someone to look deep into themselves and ask “am I being honest with myself?”.

We humans don’t change until we make it a MUST… Until change is no longer a choice, but is the only option. Until we are SO SICK AND TIRED of living the way we are, and settling for less than we deserve… Only then can we truly begin the process of change. The process of becoming the kind of man that will meet, attract, and date the woman of your dreams…

I challenge you now, to GET REAL with yourself. To stand in front of a mirror, look yourself straight in the eye, and ask yourself these tough questions. Think of how your life will be 5 years, 10 years, 30 YEARS from now if you never get this area of your life handled..? My guess is, it will probably be similar to how it is now… DULL and empty.

There is more to life, and I want to share that with you…

NOW is the time to change your life for the better, and refuse to settle for less than you deserve. Commit yourself in this moment, to dedicating your life to constant-never-ending-improvement, in every aspect of you life, especially the area of meeting, attracting and dating women…

You don’t have to be tall, rich, handsome or famous to have a quality woman in your life… You simply have to be SICK & TIRED of being unsuccessful (make change a must… Not an option) and commit to improving your dating life NOW.

If you can do that, I will personally guarantee that you will become successful with women, in ways that you never imagined were possible, before you know it…

To begin your journey now, learn my Dating Tips For Men

5 Minutes with: Ben Ezra – Article in Metro News

Posted by Ben Ezra at 5:45 pm

Hope your having a great weekend guys!

If you haven’t had the chance to read the new article published in yesterdays issue of METRO news, where I was asked 5 questions related to my book Modern World Dating as well as my dating tips for men
… You can read it here!

Article source: http://www.metronews.ca

Dating Tips For Men: “Confidence Comes From Within”

Posted by Ben Ezra at 5:11 am

Now, let me start off by being frank with you.

If you currently have issues when it comes to meeting, attracting, and dating women, absolutely NO DATING TIPS OR ADVICE will help you if you skip the most important part, which is understanding how your PSYCHOLOGY works – understanding where real confidence comes from.

These days, I see so many websites, and so called “PUA’s” (what a silly term) preaching all these techniques and magic “pick up lines” to men that have so many deeper rooted confidence issues and fears related to rejection, approaching, socializing, etc… And, its no surprise why many of these guys never end up successful…

Listen, if you want to achieve anything great into your life, not just the average “well, i guess i’ll settle for this” kind of great… But the REAL kind of great that you wish for and deserve, then you need to start making some DRASTIC changes in what you focus on.

Focus only on technique, and all you will get (if anything) is some superficial / artificial result… And if that’s all you want, then don’t waste your time reading the rest of this post. Go study some “canned pick up line” or “PUA method”.

But, if you are the kind of person that wants to REALLY improve your dating life, as well as every other aspect of your life, in ways that you never dreamed were possible… Then stay with me for the next minute or so…

Some call what I’m talking about “inner game”… And I agree with the first part. But definitely not the second.

Your psychology and mind is far from a game. It is what will make you or break you in life…

Women want a man with a STRONG psychology… Not a man with a weak psychology who uses lame pickup lines… Real and lasting confidence stems from a strong psychology, and you cant get that by using pickup lines.

Now, here’s the interesting part though…

Once you do become that kind of person that has a STRONG psychology, and has a great understanding behind the power of the mind… What you say to a woman doesn’t really matter anymore, because it is no longer all about technique…

A man with a STRONG psychology, and real confidence from within can say almost anything to a woman, and walk away successful.

On the other hand, a man with a weak psychology that only focuses on “technique” can only approach a woman and walk away successful by memorizing a word-for-word script, and by acting in a superficial / fake manner, IF HES THAT LUCKY!

WHY?

Because technique without a strong psychology is like trying to drive a car without tires or gas! You may somehow find a way to roll down the road, but you definitely won’t get far!

So guys, don’t fall into the trap of believing all this “pick up lines” and technique based “seduction methods” rubbish. If you do, you are likely to reach a point where you will really start to feel frustrated and unfulfilled, if your not feeling like that already…

Technique is the last part of the puzzle… And a very small part! So don’t focus on it until you deal with the more important areas first.

Build a strong foundation first. From the ground up…

You can learn how to build that foundation and really understand your psychology, and how to use it to your advantage when it comes to meeting and dating women, as well as any other aspect of your life!

I heard a great saying once, and it went something like this:

An overnight success usually happens after years of hard work

Now, that doesn’t mean it will take you years to find the woman, or women of your dreams… I can teach you how to do that in a much shorter time frame, but it will take a strong desire for you to succeed, and the ability to consistently focus on the right things, and take the necessary actions.

Leave the so called “technique only methods” for the lame men (more like weasels). If you read this far, I’m sure your not like those kinds of people, and you surely do not want to end up like any of them…

Begin your journey to real, and lasting change when it comes to your dating life, and commit to studying your psychology, and focus on becoming a better person with a strong character… If you do that, you will reach a point where the so called “technique” will not matter anymore… You will be able to approach a woman, say anything – and walk away successful.

That is when you will really begin to understand the power of what I am saying.

Begin your journey today!

Click here to find out more…

Inception: Entering the Depths of a Woman’s Mind

Posted by Ben Ezra at 4:10 am

2 days ago, I decided to go check out this new Leonardo DiCaprio flick that continues to rack up rave reviews all around the world… And to be honest, I’m not really into science fiction movies, so I was not expecting much of it…

But to my surprise, this movie did not only exhibit mind-blowing special effects, an amazing score, and a clever story line… But it was the concept and main message of the movie that really got me interested, and made complete sense to me in the real world…

The idea and power of planting a seed in ones mind, without the other person even knowing it, and having that idea (seed), naturally grow in their mind as if it were theirs to begin with. As if they were the gardeners that planted it in the first place.

Now, in the movie the characters entered the dreams and subconscious minds of their targets, and dug deep to reveal their innermost secrets, thoughts, and desires…

They would then use the information they learned to their advantage by communicating directly to the emotions of their target. Like a seducer who charms a woman into believing, that “she seduced him”. The Inception process of a planted thought begins.

What if I were to tell you that you could do the same, without “breaking in” to people’s dreams?

To be able to meet a woman, share some words with her, walk away… And plant a deep, sexual, and erotic seed in her subconscious without her even consciously being aware… Within just a few minutes of approaching her!

That my friends, is not science fiction!

Instead of “breaking into her dreams”, ask specific questions and LISTEN – not just with your ears, but all your senses.

Learn to read a woman by her tone of voice, her body language, her words, the speed in which she speaks, her likes, her dislikes, etc. Learn to discover as much as you can about a woman’s passions and desires in just a few minutes of conversation.

If you do this, you will be able to uncover her “emotional soft spots”. You can then use words, gestures, and body language, to trigger those emotional buttons in a way that will directly communicate certain things to her subconscious. And by doing this right, it is possible to plant such deep, sexual, and erotic thoughts into a woman’s mind, without her even being aware of it, consciously at least.

Imagine the power you could have if you really understood how to use this concept in the real world. The power to influence… The power to lead… The power to persuade… The power to have any woman you desire, to want you.

Catch my drift?

This is a VERY powerful concept, and if used correctly, will lead to very powerful results!

Think of all the great charismatic leaders of our world… And on the flip side, think of all the evil, yet charismatic past and present leaders of our world. Also, think of some powerful companies that have brained washed us with their strong advertising campaigns throughout our lives… Specifically, the companies that took things a step further, and did not just settle for people to simply remember their catchy slogan or brand name…

What do all these people and companies have in common, you ask? Well, they all understand the power behind the concept of planting thoughts in people’s minds. Many of them mastered this art.

Thoughts, like unsuspecting seeds are planted in our minds daily, when we least expect it. And the crazy thing about it is, most of the time, we are not even aware of it! It all takes place on a subconscious level…

So I hope this article opens your mind to some new possibilities, and causes you to even take things a step further, and study the psychology of this stuff! And if you have not seen the movie “Inception” yet, I would definitely recommend checking it out, while keeping this article in mind!

I briefly cover this concept, and the psychology behind it in my book “Modern World Dating: How to Meet & Date Women”. Specifically on how it relates to meeting, attracting, and dating women…

So to learn more, simply click this link to learn how to attract more women now!

Ben Ezra on Mens Room TV Interview Series

Posted by Ben Ezra at 11:19 pm

Check out this 2 minute video clip of a 40 minute EXCLUSIVE MensRoom TV Interview I recently did for their Season 2 Interviews with Experts Series!


MensRoom TV showcases some really great stuff! You can learn tons of knowledge by checking out their videos at MensRoom TV. You can watch the full 40 minute interview on there…

Here is the clip:

Ben Ezra on a Daytime Talk Show in Toronto – Rogers TV

Posted by Ben Ezra at 2:59 pm

Check out this interview I did for Daytime Toronto Talk Show. I briefly talk about why I do what I do, how to build on using humour and playfully tease a woman (I show you an example of what I used to personally say to many women), and reasons why men fear rejection, amongst many other things…


Hope you enjoy it!

1010 NewsTalk Radio Interview With Ben Ezra

Posted by Ben Ezra at 1:24 am

I was recently Interviewed by by 1010 NewsTalk Radio, located in Toronto, and here is some of the behind the scenes footage of the interview!

During the interview, I briefly talked about a few important areas when it comes to dealing with women, the top 3 dating tips for men (be congruent, don’t try too hard, learn how to use humor and playfully tease women) as well as some other insightful information…

Enjoy!

Dating Tips For Men – 1010 NewsTalk Radio Interview with Ben Ezra

Dating Tips For Men – “The Approach” Commercial

Posted by Ben Ezra at 11:38 pm

A little commercial I made testing out my new cam! I think the message of this clip speaks for itself… Always approach women which you find attractive! Within the first few seconds… Without delay and without hesitation! Take Nike’s advice and JUST DO IT. You may be sorry later if you don’t…

AFC Adam Lyons Talks About The MWD Model

Posted by Ben Ezra at 4:29 pm

A few months back, Adam posted a video entitled “the friends zone” and it got much attention… Anyhow, the way he was describing his “breaking out of the friends zone” technique in the video raised some questions amongst my readers, as well as many of Adam’s readers since it was very similar to a part of my MWD Model which was published back in 2006…


Needless to say, because of this, Adam made a video to clear things up a bit… You can watch the video here: Adam Lyone Talks About The MWD Model


The MWD Model is a step-by-step technique to get from the approach all the way to the bed, within a few hours or days… It also states how to break out, or stay out of the friends zone, as well as not ending up as the guy who women laugh at behind their backs (what I call Mr. Perfect Syndrome in my book).